I am starting a new thread as the other was so long.....this is the entry carried forward.
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Dear Gary, Govi, Kevin, Ricky and Dr Singh -- Because it would be too
hard to answer all of your so very concerned questions individually I
will attempt to do it here to you all. I hope you will all take each
others questions and opinions and analyze them according to my posts. I
am going to start with some of the questions Kevin asked....I will try
to answer them, the best that I can. Sometimes I'll go off the
questions, but hopefully it will help with the final analysis. I
appreciate everyone's view, mentioned here and the non-homeopaths that
are also looking for education and answers, I am only asking that others
do not add any of their personal cases to NOT confuse the thread.......I
will Start: My daughter was born of a long labor......26 hours...No Meds
until the hour before....I was in so much pain I finally agreed to a
shot of Demoral.......I (unknownly found out later it had nothing to do
with the labor, but how I would be after.....) Within 2 hours of her
birth I was walking around and solcializing (in the hospital....not a
home birth) I breast fed my daughter that evening and every feeding
after........She never had a bottle until the first baby-sitter tried to
give her one (unsuccessfully). I was an "older" mother in our crowd and
knew this would be my only child.....Followed breast feeding fully! The
first time I was not available (6 mos) she was given an emergency bottle
of formula....next day she came out with a rash.....I didn't give much
thought to it. At about 1 yr old I decided to supplement, again with
formula or cows milk......again the rash. I breast fed only with fruit
and veg from my garden or store bought well scrubbed for 18 mos. I did
use bottled meats. When my daughter went on full food....it was always
healthy (I'm not a health nut...I love McDonald's, Papa Gino's
etc.....but thought it was best to start her out right.) We are not soda
drinkers, so she never developed the taste for COKE. INFANCY: My
daughter was always ahead of her peers in development. Very
precicious...Sat unsupported at 4 mos. crawled at 5 mos. walked at 7
mos. She could recite the alphabet and the pledge of Allegiance at 18
mos. She was taking books out of the public library and reading them at
age 3.........Could tie her shoes, in a bow, at 3 1/2 and was playing
the piano and reading music at age 4.........During childhood, whenever
she had a cold or sniffles, her mucas was clear...She was on the shy
side, but not overly so. She would always join in but not take the lead
and start the play. Usually had one close friend at a time...she would
always invite that same one to play, but always play with the kids at
school or extra-curcicular activities. When her friendship waned with
her "best friend" she would find another and invite that one over and
over... She always let me know everything that was happening at school
(even to what the teacher wore) She was always clever at school - she
would only NOT answer when she felt the others would feel she was a
"know it all" She never liked "team sports" unless she excelled and
would NEVER play anything physical (like soccer)... She was never a
picky eater....We eat a wide range of food and she has always eaten
everything we have. As a child she was allergic to milk
products.......Also into toddler and 3 or 4 she developed an allery to
Oranges, Strawberries and Shellfish. This only happened after ingesting
a large quantity. She had since grown out of all these problems. She has
always had enlarged tonsils and sore throats...When she was 3 or so I
was concerned because she had an annoying habit of throat clearing. The
Ped Dr told me to ignore it, as it was a habit and she would grow out of
it. She has never been overly thirsy and I have to remind her, to this
day, to drink enough liquids.. Some answered questions.....She has
always preferred warm over cold but has never liked cold beverages or
food (ecept Ice Cream) She does NOT like sunbathing......Says it gives
her a headache and makes her lightheaded..the heat itself does not
bother her but the sun and humidity does. While watching TV in the
summer months, she will curl up in a blanket, while others are HOT!
She's sitting there with a big smile on her face and really comfy. She
likes warm to hot showers. My daughter has always liked to keep up with
the boys at at the gym. She makes her work-outs count...........Not
gentle exercise.....She has endurance. She has always been picky about
her selection of clothes, appearance and her person.......since
babyhood! She likes her clothes neat but is not dilligent about taking
care of her clothes. I always did that for her and continue to do it
when she's home from school.....Has always enjoyed being clean and will
complain (especially when stressed) that she feels dirty..Will then wash
her face and hands or take an additional shower. I believe, like alot of
you do, that depression is an overused word....But, she will sometimes
say " I am so depressed....I don't feel like doing anything" I
personally don't think she can sit and do "nothing" for too long. She's
very concientious about her school work and knows it has to be done to
maintain the high grades she gets. She's at a big Engineering school and
she has 5 A's and a aB for this half year. She says she feels anxious
from the stress. She often tells me "people tell me I think to much"
\she seems to analyze everything in her mind over and over. Maybe
analyzing to the point of changing the scenario in her mind?? She can be
very lazy about the appearance of her living quarters...she is usually
late for everything she does and does not get stressed about that. I
often comment about this and she tell me it doesn't bother her.....When
it's something important though, . she will get stresssed. My daughter
is very active and very involved. I think alot of her problems stem from
not having things go exactly as she planned. She'll be expecting fun,
excitement and fulfillment........when it doesn't happen her way, she
can't handle it. She expresses herself very well....It's usually the way
she expresses herself. Her way is THE way. She will listen to others
suggestions, but will ultimately do it her way. If she has to go along
with the crowd, she'll do it, but is not happy or satisfied. When she's
at home and upset she'll go to her room or shower, but will come
downstair at a reasonable length of time to talk it through...If she
feels there is no reasoning, she'll go to bed for the evening......In
that same situation, during the day, she'll take a nap. Let's go from
here and see what comes up next when I go through the rest of
it.....I've already started it, but would like some imput about what I
should focus on. Thanks for all your input........looking forward to
your replies.

This past Friday, my daughter went to the local Mental Health facility..She was told she was (Borderline - clinical depression) She will see a Prescribing Dr. for medication next Friday, therefore, I am going to give as much additional information that I can to intervene with a Homeopathic remedy, rather than anti-depresssants. My daughter had the same boyfriend from 8 - 12 grade in school. They broke up several times and dated others but always ended up back together. When she went off to college, they ended their relationship, but to this day remain best friends. They socialize when she is home from school and they call each other frquently and discuss their current relationships. At around age `14 my daughter came to me and said she had a strong desire to "cut herself" After trying to reason with her I ultimately took her to the Emergency ward of the local Hosp. After her Phyc evaluation my husband and I were told we were too controlling and she should have some therapy. 5 years of therapy off and on....no medications. She began to experience panic attacks at about age 16...more therapy, then turned to Homeopathy. NUX & ARS. SEPIA for the ringworm. My daughter is very generous with money and her posessions. Loves to buy gifts for her friends and will lend anyone money. She doesn't keep track of her money in her checkbook and she leaves money everywhere...bathroom, her bureau, pockets, etc. She and I both know she's disorganized and she mentions that she needs to get more organized. She says she has always felt stressed, anxious and prone to depression.....I can honestly say she never showed signs of it til age 14. She was a happy go lucky kid. She has always had a structured home life with rules and high expectations. She is my only child (husband's 4th) When she was younger, I brought her to church sporatically (she never showed an interest and considers herself an Athiest) Religion is not an important part of our life. She was always a self starter - I never had to push her to do school work, piano lessons, etc. She seems happiest when she is with her friends....when she's home for breaks she comments that she misses them. She is in her second year of college, lives in a Sorority House with 20 other girls. We pay 95% of her bills - she has no real money problems. We did talk recently about what her feeling were when she was preparing for college...She replied "excited but a little nervous" (sounds normal to me) Until recently she's told everyone she loves it there....now she says she hates it because she's under so much stress. I've done alot of reading on PLAT (Kevin's suggestion) The rage, etc relating to menses, especially applies. This has always been a joke in the family of her PMS.....It's no joke any longer. I find the flare-ups always happen around that time. The Platina woman does fit her very well. Any suggestions?

[This message has been edited by yvonne (edited 13 February 2000).]

There is only one remedy for cutting things and that is not referring to self but to material, paper etc. The remedy is Verat Alb and the odd thing is that it is similar to Platina in some ways. It is in the MM books as similar to Platina. Look it up and see what you think.


[This message has been edited by Ricky (edited 13 February 2000).]

This is not Platina at all. Sorry to be sort of blunt about it but I can not agree with that at all. Her history as a child is calc carb and the remedy to me is Nat Mur. The cutting thing is not atypical for a teenager. This is not a reason to give platina which has a definite history and symtomology. You are picking out a single symptom and trying to get a remedy from it. Veratrum is interesting but again I don't see enough aberation. Most veratrum cases (mentally speaking) are quite severe mental effects. YOu need a whole picture here not bits and pieces. Well I'm done.. Bye now

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http://homeopathyworld.cjb.net
govi@homeopathyworld.cjb.net

Hi Ricky & Govi.........Well, I looked up Verat and thank goodness I don't see her as that one. Please don't feel I am grabbing at one remedy.....but, time is running short, she's seeing the prescribing Dr this coming Friday and I would like to give her an alternative solution. She has always respected Homeopathy and I think she might re-consider or at least delay medication if she feels there is hope. She is 20 years old (this month) and can freely do whatever she wants with her own medical care. I know that this is affecting her so much that the "instant cure" of prescription meds sounds very tempting. Please, if you have any other solutions, suggestions or questions - keep posting. Thanks again

Dear Yvonne,

I wouldn't normally just throw any old comment unless I think it would help - or ask a question that I think is relevant.

But, I want to say to you - that I really think it is lovely that you are persevering with getting help for your daughter!! Hang in there (I'm sure you will).

My best friend (since childhood) was diagnosed Borderline - about 8 years ago....she is mentally VERY smart - member of Mensa...too smart for her own good really....but she has struggled for years. Tried SO MANY meds by Allopathic doctors. I implore you to try your hardest to encourage your daughter to stick with homeopathy - as I know how much my friend has suffered and her children (three boys) as a result of the insane behaviour that finally manifested after years of Allopathic drugs. She has been oneverything....in and out of mental facilities - you name it. AND>> if you met her - you wouldn't have a clue! She is outgoing, friendly, disorganised, etc....and the loveliest soul you could meet....but there lurks this 'thing' and she can't seem to control it. Anyhow - she is now gone - God knows where - and has not seeked treatment through Homeopathy or any other natural means - that I know of to this date....very sad outcome...her husband left (after MANY problems) and now has the three boys. I don't say any of this to panic you - but want to stress the importance of the potential dangers of turning to the Allopathic doctors for treatment....as they don't really have a clue how to treat Borderline (I studied this in College)....they simply try different drugs on the patients until one seems to work....but it always ends up running it's course and then the patient needs, yet, another drug...it is an endless cycle....and I'm sure your daughter does not want to be on drugs the rest of her life (as I am sure you don't want either)....so please know that I only write this as a cautionary note...and wish you the best...and your daughter a cure through Homeopathy or at least through natural means. Best wishes, I'll be praying for you (even though I know you aren't religious) - Lisa

Picture is emerging. Still very much Nat.Mur. The acute of which is Ignatia.

Her food allergy points to Acid Phos also. But weakness part is not quite there.
Self-mutilation due to prolonged sadness is more of Aur.Met. But suicidal thoughts are more persistent there.
How much importance would you attach to your remarriage in this connection? Have you studied MagCarb?



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VIJ
vijai@lw1.vsnl.net.in
drvsingh@hotmail.com

Lisa...Thank you for your kind words.....Even though I'm not religious I do appreciate your prayers, as I feel the person doing the praying is channeling that energy to those who need it most...And believe me, I need it right now! Dr. Singh. I'm still having a problem with const. remedies that applied to my daughter in the past (as a youngster) She is a different person now............I feel it's a normal part of growing up to be a completely different person when you become "your own person"........you have much more control over your life and can be the person you've always wanted to be or the one you perceive
yourself to be. I think there is a real problem in the States....Children go off to University at age 17 or 18..They are suppposed to make huge lifetime decisions......at that age???? The cutting is a past issue that I thought to submit...but it has never manifested itself past that one mention. I never saw any signs that this was anything, other than a teenager's way to get attention....I mentioned it because I thought it would show her extreme at getting attention......Something she NEVER had to do.....she always had everyone's attention!) There is NO remarriage on my part. I met my husband AFTER he was divorced...There has never been too much competition with the kids, as they are 20 or more years apart. Re: Food Allergies....She has none now..They came and went into toddlerhood and she is able to (and will) eat anything.) I will certainly look into MagCarb and appreciate your interest and all the others I've received!

I do see the point of DR.VIJAI SINGH, but can you tell me did she talk about suicid, by meaning did she ever told you. Sulph ).

Staphysagria: Quiet, sensitive, emotional people who have difficulty standing up for
themselves may benefit from this remedy. Hurt feelings, shame, resentment, and
suppressed emotions can lead them to depression. If under too much pressure, they
can sometimes lose their natural inhibition and fly into rages or throw things. A person
who needs this remedy may also have insomnia (feeling sleepy all day, but unable to
sleep at night), toothaches, headaches, stomachaches, or bladder infections that are
stress-related.
let me do more reading on this.

Dear Yvonne. Please do not get over perturbed. I can well understand your own stress in the present circumstances. Although every other society poses a varied influence on any situation. It is as logistic based as a cultural one.
You have 5-6 remedies sorted out now. Each one has its own background. Staphys. you have a short and beautiful narration here. Natr.mur. and Sepia you have studied. Must go through Magn.Carb as well.

Once you apply in high potency please do not interfere for three to four weeks (if possible) I know about many such cases where homoeopathy has succeeded after modern medicine had failed.


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VIJ
vijai@lw1.vsnl.net.in
drvsingh@hotmail.com

[This message has been edited by DR.VIJAI SINGH MF HOM (edited 17 February 2000).]