A friend of mine recently had third robbery in their house in 5 years. This has un-nerved all of the household and they are under a lot of tension & stress.

Common symptoms in all of them are:

Unable to fall asleep at night
Fearful of same thing happening again
Confused on why they are getting targeted again & again
Tension in muscles of shoulders etc.
Sinking feeling & lack of energy

Which remedy, if any, can relieve these stress symptoms.

Would appreciate a prompt response.

Thanks.

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Hi FIntess,
there are some chronic symptoms with the ACute symtpoms.
You need to give a dose of AConite 200C first.
then see what's left for the chronic history.
All the best!
D.r leela

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I would strongly suggest that all receive a dose of Bach Rescue also. It is the number one remedy in my first aid kit and I have witnessed it's wonders many times when people have been/are traumatised emotionally or physically injured.

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Thanks to both, really appreciate the guidance.

Regards.

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Some seriously good quality locks on their doors and windows might help alleviate some of the anxiety. I'd first change the locks on the doors - improve window security and then wait a couple of weeks to see if anxiety still remains. It's not nice being robbed - it's so unsettling. Hope it doesn't happen to them again.

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Actually, they only had a forced entry one time. For the 2nd & 3rd time, the robbers were real smart. They pretended to be someone from the neighbors and when the maid opened the door, they entered easily and then robbed the house after tying down all of the members and beating some of them !

Its a common thing in this part of the world that some maid/servant from the neighbors will bring something that the neighbors cooked and thought to share with others too. You will unsuspectingly open the door upon hearing the doorbell and ....

So its a little beyond locks & windows here. But really appreciate the concern.

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That's seriously awful, FF. Taking advantage of the tradition of neighbourliness to rob people and beat them. That makes me really angry. I hope the culprits are caught and duly punished. I can imagine the family consists of eldery family members and children as well, and the thought of them being tied up and beaten just makes me reeel in anger.

I very well understand the culture of sharing that you described, having lived many many years just 'down the road'. And having been on the receiving end of many impromptu treats and surprises from my lovely Arab neighbours. We commonly shared like this - sending maids back and forth (or our kids when they went to play with each other) with goodies. It never mattered which holiday either (Christmas, Eid, both New Years, other holy days and most times just for the heck of it). It's a tradition of sharing that I shall carry with me wherever we live in the world as it really forged a bond between us as neighbours. Thankfully, we were never robbed in the manner that happened to your friend.

There must be some way to change the routine to stop this from happening again. I know the maids are usually the ones to answer the door - especially in the afternoons when people are just waking from their naps. The men folk need to rethink the routine until robbers get the message that their house is not a 'good' target.

The other thing your friend should do is tell his neighbours what happened. And that as a result -- he must make some changes to protect his family. One thing the neighbours could do to help is to ring BEFORE sending over a shared treat -- so that your friend's family knows that someone is coming. And won't unwittingly answer the door to a stranger.

Listen, I know it grates against the natural flow of the way things go in the culture, but times ARE changing sadly - and robbers need to get the message that your friend's house isn't an easy target anymore. (maybe the men folk should also be ready with a baseball or cricket bat - wham if someone tries to force their way in)

I hope it doesn't happen again. M'shalla.

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I am really glad you understand the way this sharing works here, people are trying to change but its centuries of habits, they don't change quickly. And seems as if my friend's house has been spotted as easy target. Despite reminder to the family members, they still open the door without really making sure who is at the door. But I hope it will change now. Its sad.

The idea of ringing up first is good but when the other side's phone is busy, the lady won't wait to let the freshly cooked food cool down before sending it, she will send it right away knowing that the neighbor likes that particular food and so forth.

We pray, inshallah (God Willing) it won't happen again.

The robbers were caught and took a good amount of beating from all of us as police brought them for identification.

Thanks for your concern. Regards.

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I don't think they should change their 'centuries of habits' as much as I think they need to find a way to protect themselves that won't interfere too much with their tradition of sharing. Otherwise people end up becoming fragmented from each other, while losing that tight-knit sense of community. And as time goes by - they end up distrusting each other(!) because they don't know their neighbours anymore. Find a way to fight back in a peaceful way . Outwit the robbers.

Hmm. Yes, I can see how that would happen. And I know your friend's family wouldn't want to risk offending the neighbour by refusing to open the door....

Listen, a few years ago, one of my Arab friends had a similar problem and they ended up altering their door. They had a skillful carpenter cut a small opening in the existing door. He built a sort of small/'mini' door (on hinges so it could open and close) and it had it's own lock as well. The 'mini' door was located far enough above the door-knob and main door-lock so if anyone tried to reach in they simply could NOT reach the lock or the handle. It was too small for a small person (or a child) to fit but big enough to pass food and small packages through.

They did this after his mother had come to live with them, following his father's death. During the weekdays she'd be at home alone with three maids and two small grandchildren (one still in nappies). Shortly after moving in - she heard stories about some of the houses in their area having been robbed. Even though they hadn't been robbed, she -- being old, frail and obviously feeling vulnerable -- was paranoid that they would be robbed. Whenever the doorbell rang during the work-week hours, she would work herself into hysteria. Many times he had to leave work early to calm her down.

It didn't only affect his mother, though. The children became antsy and anxious. And whenever their grandmother had another episode, they would get really upset along with her. On top of that, two of the three maids were highly emotional (they would also get worked up, rendering themselves useless and not at all helpful). The remaining ('sensible') maid was the one who'd call him at work when things got too much for her to handle. It became unbearable with his work schedule and too disruptive to the children and the maids. You can imagine coming home to that scene almost everyday, I'm sure.

After the 'mini' door was installed - life became a lot more peaceful for the whole family. Whenever everyone was at work -- all deliveries (small packages, or neighbourly food sharing) were simply taken through the 'mini' door. The neighbours were very understanding about the situation.

If your friend decides to do something like this - they need to carefully organise where the 'mini' door is installed in relation to the locks and door handles. Also consider a lock that is not so easily manipulated with one hand in case someone tries to use some kind of device (i.e. a coat hanger or something of that nature) to try to open it through the 'mini' door.

Well, let's hope those particular robbers will think twice about contemplating robbery again. I'm amazed anyone even tries it in Saudi. What are the penalities there now for robbery? Were they muslims or otherwise?

Anyway, I hope they find some way to render their house a hard target. Best wishes....

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fear remedies much information in this article;
http://www.homeoint.org/hompath/articles/1593.html

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