Hi, You guys were very helpful a couple of years back with my other son and his tonsils. Hope to find some help for my youngest now.
He's always been very independent, bull headed, and determined. He's a very sweet boy mostly, but then just bucks everything. Things have gotten more difficult since we've gotten an almost 3 year old foster son. The 4 year old seems jealous and loves to tattle on him, he also not very patient with him, seems to get angry with him and has struck out, pushing and even hitting. The foster son is a very easy going guy so luckily this hasn't escalated to an all out war. I just would like to get the 4 year old to enjoy life and be less argumentive/ oppositional.
Here's info on him: Pregnancy was great. Delivery at home, very short labor but intense. Very verbal from early on, although it didn't develop into understandable language. Had a speech therapist around age of two for several months and was chattering away quickly. Had been diagnosed apraxia. Seems to catch on quickly and is very cordinated. Loves puzzels, leggos, books, water activities, hiking, and playing soccer.
He has an older 11 yr old sister and 8 year old brother. Gets along pretty well with them. Has always felt he can do whatever they can do, thus played soccer at 3, climbed trees.... We live on a homestead so he's outside most of the time.
As a baby he didn't sleep well, would wake up several times during the night, but return to sleep easily with nursing. He now sleeps well, although he often comes to our bed during the night. Has always eaten well, likes sweets but doesn't get them often.
I wouldn't describe him as shy, he quickly jumps into new situations and enjoys playing with others, prefers kids his age or older.
Let me know what more info would be helpful. Hope to find some constitutional to help him all around. I know much of this is normal for a 4 year old, but it seems it could be easier for him. He ends up in time out often for argueing, hitting/pushing, or just plain being overly negative.
Thanks so much,
Machi

MAchi,

Like you said, a lot of this behaviour is normal for a child who has to deal with someone so close in age hogging the attention away from him. I think counseling, in the sense of feeling love and security will be more impoetant for you.

But if you would really like to find out his constitutional, please give us some more physical details.
Perspiration distribution
Food Cravings and aversions (Few more)
Thermal state (Does he feel more hot or cold)
Illnesses that he has been through etc.

Regards,
doctorleela

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I would consider Hyoscamus as the first remedy to think of when a child is jealous of the appearance of a new member of the family. Are there any other peculiarites in his behaviour?

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What do you mean by perspiration distrubution?

Food Cravings: Oatmeal, likes meats, likes homemade whole wheat brea, muffins, pancakes, cornbread, and pasta, likes cream cheese but not other plain cheeses, most fruits, broccoli, corn, greens, popcorn.

Aversions: doesn't like chocalate mint ice cream, most cheeses, milk, anything too spicey, yolk in hard boiled eggs.

thermal state: Usually warm. He'll go out barefooted and in shorts when others are bundled. Kicks covers off while sleeping. Has always had a warm body.

Illnesses: Nothing other than a few colds and flues. Once had a stomach virus and became dehydrated and spent night in hospital. Was about one year old.

I know much of what I have written is common for a 4 year old, but he just seems so intense and contrary. He's quite whinny also and gets offended easily. It just seems he could enjoy himself more if he wasn't always so contrary.

Perspiratin distribution is the different parts of the body that he perspires.

Could you tell me more about what he likes to talk about?
When he plays with other children, what role does he take on, eg. Leader etc.
What does he say he would like to do when he grows up?
Which issues is he most contrary about?
What type of clothes does he like or dislike?
Deo he have any specific fears?

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Could you tell me more about what he likes to talk about?

He'll talk about anything. He loves to talk and never stops. Right now he's playing soccer so that's a major subject. He love to boss others around and to tattletale, especially the new 3yr. old foster brother. We'll pay closer attention to what his favorite subject is at this time.

When he plays with other children, what role does he take on, eg. Leader etc.
He'd prefer to take the leader role, but he'd rather play with the older kids where he has to take a follower role. But if others try to boss him too much he'll get mad and stomp off or may get physical (push, even hit).

What does he say he would like to do when he grows up?

He's only four so he hasn't really talked much about what he wants to be. If he does it usually becomes what his older sibblings say, park ranger.

Which issues is he most contrary about?

If we pick his clothe out, he'll want someother color, shorts instead of pants, etc. If given warnings about his behavior (ie: if you keep doing x you'll have to sit in time out), he'll keep pushing you but then refuse to sit in time out. Although he'll eventually sit in time out and then be quite cooperative. It's just getting there.

What type of clothes does he like or dislike?

Up untill the last year he'd have rather go naked. Now he'd rather wear shorts and no shirt, eventhough it's getting chilly here. He likes to wear what he picks out.

Deo he have any specific fears?

Right now I think he fears he may be getting displaced by the younger foster son. He's afaid of witches/ ghost, things he's heard about but can't identify.
He likes snakes, climbing trees

Dear MAchi,

I'm inclined to think that your son need a dose of Sulphur 200.

But I would like to rule out
Tarentula - Reslessness and cannot sit in one place. Love for music and dancing
Veratrum - Insolent, haoughty and loves to spend money. Destructiveness.
Hyoscymus - Foolish type of behaviour or fear that they are being watched, along with the jealousy.

Maybe others would have some more ideas.

Warm regards,
doctorleela

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But I would like to rule out
Tarentula - Reslessness and cannot sit in one place. Love for music and dancing

I wouldn't describe him as restless and unable to sit in one place. He'll sit for long periods looking at books, playing with leggos and can sit in vehecles for hours on long trips without major compaints. He does like music and sometimes to certain music will ask me to dance with him.

Veratrum - Insolent, haoughty and loves to spend money. Destructiveness.

Maybe a little insolent, but not destructive at all. Can't say about the money since he's only four.

Hyoscymus - Foolish type of behaviour or fear that they are being watched, along with the jealousy.

Not sure what foolish behavior would be in a four year old. He sometimes may act imbarressed if he realizes someone has been watching him, but not generally. He's not jealouse of anything else just when it relates to the new 3 year old foster son

Thanks for all the input, hope this helps. Let me know what else you need to know.
Maria

Like David, I thought of Hyos. right away.

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Dear Maria,

I understand why the others see Hyos as some symptoms you mentioned seem yo indicate it, esp Jealousy and wandering Naked.

I would explain the "Naked" part, as feeling very hot with clothes on and hence preferring to be without the. He does not even feel chilly inspite of the cold weather.

The jealousy is always a tricky thing. I think if Sulphur felt threathened in an important relationship, he would be inclined to react in some way. Here aggressiveness. COuld be analysed as jealousy too.

So I'd personally still go with Sulphur. I don't think the jealousy is something to be treated, rather his system needs to get on balance again. I'm open to correction, however.

warm regards,
doctorleela

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