Hello,
I am really needing some help with my 9yr old. She has had not so much a rash but very sensitive skin around her mouth and on her lips. This has gone on for over two months now. The skin around her her mouth looks raw and on her lips it looks like small open blisters. My husband suggested taking her to the doctor and he prescribe an antibiotic and panadel (hydrocordizone cream) with no possitive results. It comes and goes. She is the kinda kid that picks and scratches at most of her sores so that has hendered it from healing some. I have put bandaids on the sores which has helped them to heal and her to keep her hands off also, but it is hard to keep them on out in public. There does not seem to be any one certain thing that triggers it like soap or any foods. I am really at a loss. I have given the kids recommended remedies and have had success. I do not know what to give her any help would be greatly appreciated.



[ 24 June 2001: Message edited by: JaiJai ]

Here's 3 suggestions. First, try Calendula cream topically, which is very soothing and healing.

Secondly, try Natrum Muriaticum 30C, once a day for a week (stop if improvement starts and wait and watch. Resume if improvement stops. Stop also if condition worsens.)

If the above doesn't work, try
Arum Triphyllum--same instructions.

Other possibilities include Calcarea and Sulphur, and there are others as well. Let us know how you're making out.

Sincerely,

Snoopy

Thank you very much. The cream has already made a difference. I have to order the remedy, but I will update as soon as I give to her.

I started my daughter on the recommended remedy. I am concerned about the pigment of her skin. She is bi-racial and has light brown skin. Since this has been going on the skin around her mouth has become noticably lighter. Do you think the Nat. Mur. will help that also?

Thanks so much,
JaiJai

Dear Jai,

The right remedy should certainly make her skin normal--you might try reading some of the other posts on the BB to get the idea of all the information we really need to know to come up with the best remedy. We really know nothing about your child other than her dry lips--keynotes for Nat-m. and Arum trip.,
and they may help. But it would be even better if we knew enough about your child to determine her constitutional remedy--the remedy that fits her whole person and not just her lips.

We need to know her personality, what you would change about her if you had a genie to grant you three wishes, what her food and drink habits are, her health history, any big shocks or traumas she's had and how she's handled them, just to give you a rough idea.

Keep in touch with us.

Snoopy

Thank you for your reply. It would be great to give her a constitutional.
Just a little bit of personal history, we adopted her and one of her sisters. Tink had just turned 4yrs old when we got her she is now alomost 10. She was more emotionally neglected than physically. Rejected by her mother more than her father altough he was not around much.

As far as her personality she has difficulty connecting with people adults and children alike, connecting meaning getting close. She does not like to follow rules. As a young child she received no attention so even though we give her alot of attention she is still very persistent in the acting out her ways to recieve negative attention. If I made that sound like I can recognize when she is doing it and can handle her behavior let me say I react most of the time instead of calmy responding. She has yet to really bond with her father. She has very few friends some of the mothers have told me their children say she is annoying, never wants to do anything accept what she wants. She will not listen to anyone when she is told to do something when she is away from her father and I. She has hardly any interests in doing anything by herself. She is very smart yet does not apply herself. I can tell you more if you need me to.
There are things I would want to be differnet about her. But I really want her to be happy and have great self esteem .

Eating:
As far as her eating habits, she likes meat and pasta. She does not like to drink water just flavored drinks. She does not like milk she is not a big sweets eater, loves hot sauce on everything, mustard not ketchup, not manyy veges. She eats her meals with no problem and will always try food to see if she likes it or not. Oh yes she loves minty anything. She does like most fruit and likes to eat salad.

Sleeping: she seems to sleep well usually 8-10 hours (I home school) she is however always moving, sometimes talking and she does grit her teeth.

Trauma: she has been through alot... alot of changes. After reading the last post I realized that her mouth started getting sore right before our last move. A year ago we decided to move every six months or so with my husbands job. We had a family talk and she and her sister were OK with it. I see now where it has been harder on the both of them than we anticipated.

How she handles it:

She displays certain behaviors that are very aggravating to both her father and I.

She just seems distant. I do not know how to explain it very well.

Health:
Tink is a very healthy child she gets a runny nose at times or a headache sometimes when we are in the car. Maybe a cold every now and then. She is strong and likes sports.
Please let me know if you need more information about her.

Thanks alot,
JaiJai

[ 02 July 2001: Message edited by: JaiJai ]

Dear Jai,

Thanks for the long letter. It almost never fails that the so-called "chief complaint"
is only the tip of the iceberg; but the parent rarely realizes that homeopathy is very good at treating the results of early childhood abuse. Whole books have been written on this area of homeopathy:

RITALIN-FREE KIDS
RAGE-FREE KIDS

just to name two.

I still get a feeling about
Natrum Muriaticum regarding this child.
Nat-mur. is a remedy that doesn't attach well to others because of a history of rejection. They don't know how to bond.

It's a grief remedy, and certainly, being attached to your home and then having to move would tend to cause a grief.

I think it makes sense to try nat-mur. and see if there's an improvement on some level.

Sincerely,

Snoopy

Dear Snoopy,
Thanks for helping... I must say the Nat-Mur made her face (around her mouth) worse, I gave her the remedy for two days.

I then went to the next suggestion, Arum-triphyllum and with-in the hour there was great improvement, after her shower that eve you could not tell anything had been wrong. The second morning her face was a little red but still OK that eve she was in her room watching TV and began to rub and scratch around her mouth. We're back to square one... Her lips are swollen this morning and her mouth is very red and sore. As for other improvements none so far. She has regressed if anything. Not completing tasks and so on.

Should I continue the Arum or try something else.


Thank you,

Jai

Dear Jai,

You say Arum trip did amazing work but only for roughly 24 hours? Let me ask you this.
While Arum was working, did her mood improve, or just the skin? If her mood improved, it would be worth repeating the remedy. Did you give just one dose of a 30C?
Perhaps try it once a day for a week.

Let me know.

Snoopy

It's me again! Jai, I should have asked you:
When the nat-m. made her face worse, did it change her mood, etc. in any way? Sometimes the right remedy will cause an aggravation, which often wears off to reveal that the person has been cured. Usually, we're supposed to stop the remedy and wait if there's an aggravation; but I can understand how you might wonder why nat-m would aggravate if it were the right remedy when Arum trip caused immediate improvement!

At any rate, how was her mood on nat-m.?

Snoopy