My son has been being under a homeopath's care for some time now. We have not found what it is he needs. This next round we are trying Anacardium. as well I have taken up treatment since I probably add to his problems.I will be trying Sepia.

My son is 15 years old....going on 2.(immature) has ADD, Obsessive-compulsive disorder, anxiety disorder, and oppositional defiance disorder and depression. He is on various medications:Ritalin and Luvox and Welbutrin. I cannot take him off of these at this time....but it is my goal....hopefully thru homeopathy to eliminate these medicines.
Currently overweight....eats a lot of junk food (loves sweets, pizza). Likely eats more than should due to stress, feelings of low self worth. Has said he is "worthless"
Gets headaches alot. Mostly originates in back of neck....always wanting me to put pressure on the spot to help. He also cracks his neck alot___(on purpose.) Sometimes he also gets what he calls a "Squishy-brain" headache (like his brain is floppy and his head will explode...feels head is large.
He is basically a slob. I have to often force him to take showers, brush his teeth. Spills food on his shirts/pants. Often doesn't care. His computer room is a disaster. Dirty dishes, papers, total disorganization...(no exagerration here).
Very lazy. Will put more effort into trying to get someone else to do something for him than to take the effort and do it himself. He is also very dependent on me. Wants me to do do do for him. Even brush his hair in the mornings, bring him a drink etc. Will say he's hungry and then when I tell him if he wants something he will have to get it himself...he will say"never mind..." Wants to sleep in my room at night. Scared of me dying or self dying. Scared of robbers, someone getting into the house.
Scared of bees and beetles.
Has a cruel or nasty side and yet can also be a very empathetic and compassionate person. Doesn't feel he is two persons though. Has a temper....can get angry quite quickly, especially if doesn't get his way.
Holds grudges, gets a train of though going through his head....won't let go of it.
Is picked on/teased at school on a regular basis. Even when meeting new kids,,,there is something about him that drives those kids that don't even know him to be rejecting of him.
Can be over-bearing and obnoxious and teasing. Loves to talk on the phone. Has gotten in trouble with others because he will call them too much (10 times in one day for example.) Loves to swear. Prefers music with swearing in it. Sits at computer ALOT. Admits he is "adicted to it".
Doing poorly in school due to disorgantization and lack of completing assignments. Is in Special education.

If anyone needs more info I will provide it. I am interested in hearing what EVERYONE has to say on their perceptions. WE have tried in the past: Stram., Bufo, Calc.c., Sulfer, Hyoscamus, Lyssin with no real big changes.Hyo.seemed to help a little with his touching others, and appeared to be a little bit more self reflective but that is it.
Any input would be appreciated. I will be receiving a dose of Anacardium for him shortly and will be trying that but still want feed back from ALL you valuable people out there.
Thanks
Zmyst.



[This message has been edited by Zmyst (edited 01 April 2000).]

When did it all start? When did you first notice that he seemed to find life more difficult than other children?

I advise not to give the Anac, at least until you have some further opinions, as I think that is unlikely to solve it.
Might be NuxV with another beneath.

This is NOT a anacardium, sulphur etc, its a Natrium mur patient.
Suggest one dose of Natrium mur one M.

Thanks for all your replies thus far. I appreciate it.
My son changed quite a bit at 2 years old when I started dating again. (His father had died when I was 1 1/2 months pregnant so I didn't date for over two years after that).
I have had a problem becoming over involved in my relationships and so when I became involved with someone when he was about two I am afraid I started to ignore him. He went from positive seeking attention behaviors to negative....right before my eyes. Prior to that he was my Buddah baby....always smiling, delightful to be around. After the change to negative behavior, he also become silly, angry and I had difficulty putting
him to bed. Also discovered at that time he had (and still does) a sensitivity to red and orange food colorings. At age 5 he
Went to a pre-kindergarten because an evaluation showed him to have a low frustration tolerance and concerned for him being a "stressed" child ( he would black out people's faces when he drew them. Also draw them with rocks inside and pricklies on the outside. Started to develop fears.
When he was 9 or so, in 4th grade....he had a male teacher who called him "dumb" and a "trouble maker". He went from an A and B student to a D and E. What little self-esteem he did have was crushed even further.
I took him out of that school and placed him in a private school where in 8th grade he was asked to leave because of some violent talk towards another student....just to try and scare the other student.
Has always had a difficult time keeping friends as he is bossy and obnoxious. Never used to have trouble making friends becuase he was very out going and sociable (but after couldn't keep them) But now, all he has to do is enter a room and other kids have him pegged as a weirdo and a target for rejection. So, he obviously he has lost some of his outgoing nature.

1. Anacardium: Probably we are trying that because it is felt that under neath all his anger and nastiness is a very hurt and defeated individual. He HAS told me it is easier for him to become angry than to try and think out or deal with anything else.
Also, there IS a caring, and sweet side of him, but then there is an uncaring, selfish side. Calls his best friend and idiot even though he knows how hurtful names are and this friend is so far the best one he's ever had and puts up with alot. Plus the fixation on swearing is a factor i'm sure. Doesnt' care for music unless there is alot of swearing in it.
2. NUX question....I have considered that because some times I feel my son is a perfectionist underneath it all but a defeated, frustrated one. Rather than trying to work at something, he often will quit if he can't be great at it from the beginning. Not everything...he has learned to play the guitar and a few other things, but cops out real quick on most if it's not easy for him.
3. Ricky) Sulfer. We tried that, with absolutly no change what so ever. But yes, he does seem to have some of those traits.

4. GM. Do you really think Nat Mur? Son is not much of a salt lover...although I AM!!!
Any other stand out traits for this that you think he fits?? He's not a chilly person. In fact sweats alot ,gets hot easy. (Maybe due to excess weight??) Also loves bread...If there are no sweets in the house he will eat almost a half of loaf of bread plain.

He has been a difficult case because he lacks insight into his own behavior and perceptions....so when we ask him questions we often get an honest reply of: "I don't know...." If I keep after him about giving me more detail he gets angry and tells me to stop bugging him or starts giving me off the wall answers, changing the subject etc.
Other physical aspects are warts on palm of hand. Lots of saliva (ever since baby) also has snored since a baby. Had problems with milk as a baby....had to give him a Soy formula. Has received allergy shots in the past...Many allergies to trees, molds, dust , grasses....you name it.

I appreciate everyone's input...like I said the more information you can give me the better...I would very much like to understand things. ( I suppose there is a remedy for that too!!)

Thanks
Zmyst



[This message has been edited by Zmyst (edited 26 March 2000).]

Zymst, the first part of your reply confirms NatM. Also, warts on palm of the hand is confirmatory. Hard to find as good a prescriber as GM anywhere.
As for potency, I wonder about the benefits of an LM daily here since there are lots of conventional medicines being given.
Since you ask about yourself, it is possible you also need NatM, but post more information if you wish.

There's a lot of sulphur here amongst other things. Maybe what is needed is a mineral Sulphate but I'm not sure which one as haven't got time to rep it properly at the moment.

Hello
I have gone back into the various MM's and can definately see in many areas where my son fits the Nat Mur picture with some exceptions. The exceptions confuse me. I realize that a person will probably never fit on every thing...I feel I am definately more Nat Mur than my son. Seen Sepia is related to it(complementary?)
Also in another MM I see that Anac is a related remedy to Nat Mur. Didn't see this in other MMs. IF Anac is related would one still give Nat Mur given my son's swearing fixation, and poor self-esteem (want of courage?) , itching of scalp, etc.
Would the Nat. Mur help with some of the other things that trouble us?? He takes Luvox for OCD. Counts things....to 4s and 6s.(even numbers) or feels anxiety...that something bad will happen. On Luvox it is better but not gone. Off Luvox he is impossible to tolerate with the counting and repetition.
I know I ask a lot of questions and giving maybe too much information, but I seek to understand the whys of a remedy as I seek to understand homeopathy AND help my son.
Thanks,
Zmyst

First of all, hes frozen in time, thats Natrium mur, and swearing, well then i need anacardium too,as i do it now, how dumb, is it possible to bee?
Would you not swear, when full of anger because others has trespassed against you, and when you express anger, then your diagnosed as having ocd or whatever, and must be put under medication, silenced? A new transgression against you, would you not swear more, in helplessness?

FIRSTOF ALL, BECAUS OF ALL THE EARLIER, AND STILL GIVEN MEDICATION, HE HAS ALSO PARTS OF THOSE PICTURE, GIVE FIRST OF ALL CAMPHORA X30 ONE DOSE A DAY, IN THREE DAYS, THEN THE FIFTH DAY NATR MUR AND US LM, OR ONE M.

With Nat. Mur does one have to avoid peppermint?
Zmyst