I have a 9 y/o son who is extremly disobedient, jealous and vengeful. He gets even with me for disciplining him by destroying my personal belongings. Will not admit he's done these things unless you can prove he has done them. Needless to say he lies, too. He also is jealous of the older brother and destroys his belongings and creations, too. Help! I am afraid of this escalating and someone getting hurt. Also, he has has some treatment with an unlicenced practioner, and he proved quite sensitive to remedies, by reacting violently to some, and seeming to become (proving?) whatever remedy personality he was given. Worried and worn out mom.

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Is he really seeking attention because he has an educational problem like Dyslexia ??

Children who have difficulties at school or emotional problems at home because of divorce etc can behave like this

THis isn't homeopathic advice....
But one thing I would suggest you do, is IF you know he did something, or even have strong suspicions....don't bother trying to extract a confession from him before you discipline. He will lie about it, then if he gets away with it...the lying is reinforced. IT is rewarded. Also, its a reward for him to see you really upset over what he does. EVen if you punish him and he sees you really upset....he'll take the punishment just for the reward of the show of your emotions.
My boyfreind's kid lies like a rug...and keeps doing it, because the parents keep HOPING that he's going to tell them the truth....and so he gets away with it time after time. Now it's second nature. Open mouth....lie.
Now my son, who's 16 has ADD and ODD falls into similar behaviors (except the lying thank goodness....from the start I'd made it a habit that if he told me the truth about something...he might still receive a punishment but nothing like he'd receive if he lied. THAT would get double!....for the lie AND the deed. I guess I did ONE thing right) These are tough behaviors to deal with, so while I give you advice....I know how difficult it is to put into practice consistantly.That is one big reason I am seeking homeopathic treatment my self. Wish you the best.

Zmyst

[This message has been edited by Zmyst (edited 06 August 2000).]

Since when did the behavioural pattern change?All physical and mental changes in the body has a reason beneath it.
A good homeopath will make his life happier.
Find one from the directory section of this site who is nearest to your place and who can see your son in person and give a detailed history.Homeopathy has treated such cases in past as per my experience.
Do not give up.
all the best

Thanks for your advice. My 9 y/o son is homeschooled along with his other two brothers, and I know he does not have dyslexia. There is also no divorce. However, I have suspected for a long time (and after reading several books on the subject) that he has ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder.) Now when he wants to he can sit and read a book, which does not fit the description of ADHD. This behavior has existed as long as I have been noticing. Although I have noticed that it increases significantly when he has new teeth coming in, and this has been the case the last few months. He is getting new molars. But his behavior has always been supercharged, for instance he never walked but started out running. I agee that he gets a charge out of getting an emotional response to the things he does, because he is an instigator, and seems to entertain himself when he has nothing better to do by starting something. This summer he has done so many things, destroyed my ecchinacea plants (I think), Smashed a hole in the side of our shed, deleted the contents of our computer (because we forbid him to get on the computer), and destroyed my personel things, most unconfessed. But I have been consistant with disciplining by encouraging him to tell the truth and increasing the punishment if he lied and disobeyed, too. I have no faith in medical doctors and would not consider putting my son on ritalin. Therefore I am seeking homeopathic advice.

Tell us about his eating habits, he like and diss-likes any fears, when he worse or better.
Which foods he like and does he have any craving for sweets or different foods
---------------And ask him, why he does these things, and ask him what he wants , what goes through his mind, while he’s upset. Any other info.

Dan (instead of 9 y/o boy) loves Ice cream, bread. Does not like spiced food or vegetables. Tends to be thirsty. Fears lightening storms, says he does not like the flashing of the light. Does not like the dark, needs the door open and a night light and his brother in the room to go to sleep. (They room together.) Imagines something (unknown) coming out of the dark to get him. Has to have closet doors closed when in the room because of the dark in them. Doesn't like spiders but not phobic about them. Dan is good at piano and Math concepts. He loves mazes and maps. He is not a verbal person, but he is very sensitive. He would fall apart if anyone did the things to him that he does to others. He is posessive. Loves having his back scratched. Says when asked "why" to the behaviors, that he's mad at me for making him do things (chores). It seems he is getting even for whatever he thinks I did wrong to him. I hope that helps.

Probably Stramonium is the remedy that is needed. Suggest it to your homeopath. It is indicated because of the fears as well as the jealousy.

Yes stram, the first remedy came to mind, but I need it more information to be sure. Also Ricky, I wanted to get clear on jealousy—can you ask him why he’s jealous of his brother and other things.
(Emotion effects; Jealousy: Apis, Hyos, Lach,Staph). Also does he some fear of ghosts and giant men.

Dear Gary, I will ask him tomorrow when he is about of the reasons of his jealousy and if he fears ghosts and giant men. He is not a verbal guy. I will do my best. Something that I did not mention that has always stumped me is he cannot seem to stop himself once he has committed himself. An example might be, he has picked up a pear and thrown it and been caught, and while I am telling him to stop and not to throw another pear, he has started the process of doing it again, and no matter how loud I scream stop he has to finish and throw the pear. I don't know if this helps. Thanks for your time. Talk to you tomorrow.