Dear Simone,

There's no matter so simple that talking to a man about it can't leave you totally bewildered! Let me just say this: There's nothing that says you have to have a baby. Do what's appropriate for you at this time in your life. I can tell you that once the baby is born, the studying will stop and the sleep-loss and all the other sacrifices will begin.

You've watched those nature shows on public television, right? The males come around for mating season, and then they split; and the female assumes all the responsibility of pregnancy, childbirth, child-rearing and feeding and educating the babies until they are finally old enough. She does this all alone with no help. In human society, men often try their best, but their best is often pathetic. Figure that you're gonna be in this (mostly) alone, and decide on that basis--what's best for you? You matter too; your life counts!

You can take Hyos. 30C just to see what happens; it may clear your head and enable you to make a centered decision. That's what I would do.

Snoopy