Dear Simone,

The emotional insecurity you describe is not in any way unusual for someone in your situation. You are already a parent so in your conciousness you understand the depth of responsibility that is involved with bringing a child into the world. I feel from reading your posts this is not something you would take on without a lot of thoughtful concern. As you'd know, parenthood and a new addition to the family unit are life changing processes for everyone and bring many changes on every level. Life changes have the knack of stirring up every projected insecurity and bringing them into the foreground of our consciousness. You know yourself they are only emotional insecurities but they niggle away gaining momentum while they are not brought out into the open. What starts out as just a passing thought can soon take on Hollywood dimensions (at least they do with me and I can't use pregnancy as a reason!).

I have the impression that it is with your partner that you can best defuse these insecurities. But you need to approach him in a way that he can truly hear your concerns. Your concerns are NOT silly. They are genuine concerns because of the simple fact that you experience them. He may not understand the extent to which they play on your mind, and when he does understand this, he will be in a better position to assuage your feelings of being abandoned, forsaken, jealous, whatever it is that you feel. If they are brought out into the open they will lose their power over you. Who knows, they may even start to seem funny.

I don't see a paranoid or jealous delusional Hyoscyamus process happening here, but I do see you as someone who is thoughtfully trying to accept and integrate the situation you now find yourself in. It's no mistake that a pregnancy evolves over several months with the day by day opportunity to integrate, prepare, anticipate, look forward to, and then celebrate the new arrival. Take it easy, and be gentle.

Chris