Dear Bettina,

That you are now able to express how you feel is excellent. I think you are a wonderful complete human being.

In the business world we are often judged by how we look, our hair style, our fashion sense. If this were not appropriate, you would not be as successful as you are. Also, you would know if your friend did not like your hair. And most importantly, you should wear your hair and dress in a way that feels right for you.

I think you are very generous and forgiving to have put up with your relatives' verbal abuse (I do think that's what it is) for so long. This has probably made a deep impact on you as a child and part of why your self esteem is low. It must have hurt you deeply.

It might help to decide how you want to respond to your relatives next time they abuse you. I'm sure you would never do anything to hurt anyone's feelings, but it may be important for you to let them know that they are hurting you.

Everything seems to be working for you and the remedy response appears to be excellent. You're really doing well and seem to have a healthy attitude and healthy responses to life's ups and downs.

Shirley

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Shirley Reischman