Hi, Carol - My experience has always been that Ignatia is pre-eminently a grief remedy, and while your friend is grieving the loss of her relationship, it sounds like there's a good bit of fear, self-dislike and despair in there too. I've found that the Bach Flower remedies can work very well for such situations -- the trick is in picking the best match, because the differences are subtle! Can you get hold of a book describing the Flower remedies? If so, check out especially Mustard and Gorse.