Gm - Thanks for your reply - but how can I find out more from him when he doesn't even know I know....

Shoot...I wish I could just tell him I know - but it is difficult and I know all hell would break loose...if I told. So, if he tells us - I will listen carefully and glean what I can...and post all info here - then perhaps get a rem.
Thanks anyway!! Much appreciated.
(thanks Barb, for your kind words)
Lisa

PS...that was my main worry too - getting to him before he submits to an operation (although I got the impression that it is too late !!) or major drugs!...anyhow, will keep my ears wide open...and see what transpires!

[This message has been edited by Lisa007 (edited 20 May 2000).]